The couples that play together, stay together.
Whether you’ve been together for one year or for 10, sometimes even the steamiest of relationships can start to feel a bit stale. You’ve been getting into the same routine over and over again. The weekend rolls around and you both order in Chinese food, binge-watch your favorite Chopped episodes and then go to bed before 11 PM.
A stale relationship can also come in the form of the same old boring routine in the bedroom: five minutes of foreplay, followed by 10 minutes of the missionary position. Then, you both roll over and go to sleep without saying a word.
That means it’s time to add the sexy back into your fun by trying something new and get as wild as you dare.
No, we don’t mean swapping your partner out for somebody else or trying death-defying stunts to give you an adrenaline rush. We mean bringing the sexy back into your relationship by trying something new that you’ll both enjoy.
Don’t get all stressed out about how to bring sexy back to your relationship. Focus on having fun instead of meeting a goal, says YourTango Expert Tina Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.
Some sex encounters will go well but some won’t, so have a sense of humor. Spend more time laughing, talking and being silly and less time feeling pressured. A lighter attitude will make sex more fun. And who doesn’t want that?
Maybe it’s putting together an X-rated scavenger hunt or sending each other some sexy selfies. Maybe you want to try your hand at writing your own sexy story. There’s even a subscription service that discreetly delivers fun and flirty romantic surprises to your door. And sometimes, the best way to get sexy is as easy as simply relaxing.
Check out our list of 12 ways to bring back the sexy in your relationship. You and your partner will be glad you did.